entirely ruined her disposition with books

Things I did not need today:

* People arguing that what Willow did wasn't rape. I can handle people forgiving her for it or still liking her despite it--that is, of course, their prerogative--but I can't handle the absolute denial that it was rape. I can't. I shouldn't even get involved in these arguments because it just makes me mad.

* Totally random instances of people hating on people with Southern accents. Like, not light-hearted, the way I talk about people with Boston or New York accents or whatever and how they grate upon my hears with their nasal quality. ;p Serious dismissal of people because of their accent. Classism. It really is, I swear.

( in which I ramble at length )

I just needed to get that out. I'm gonna go watch cheesy kdramas now, okay?

One: I am sick and tired of scrolling through my flist and seeing all this porn vids posted in random communities. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT. STOP IT. Who does things like that? I do not understand.

Two: I think everyone needs a hug.



*sniff* I love you guys!

This is perhaps the most bizarre question I've ever asked y'all. And considering that I have a tag entitled "stupid questions for my flist," that is saying something. But I figure if anyone knows, it's y'all!

I've been catching up on some Jezebel articles, and I've noticed that a lot of the commenters have changed their usernames to something about bringing back MizJenkins. Now, MizJenkins is easily one of my favorite Jezebel commenters EVER, so this makes me concerned. Was she banned? Did she just throw up her hands and say that she can't do it anymore (I wouldn't blame her at all--Jezebel commenters have been spectacularly faily lately, especially when it comes to race)? WHAT HAPPENED? And, more importantly, where can I watch it all play out?

So, Jezzie-flisters (I know there are at least two of you who comment over there and definitely more who read), can you link me to where this all went down? Because I am all ready to get really angry and righteously indignant on her behalf.

This day has been so full of fail. I cannot have a conversation online without someone failing horribly. Work has been more relaxing and soothing to my soul, and we all know how I feel about that.

Like this:

Having a conversation on whedonesque (duh), which is full of fail on other levels (like this gem: "I'm not sure to what extent critical gender theory is an ideal tool for analysing individual texts as opposed to identifying trends in the medium as a whole" embedded in a bunch of pseudo-intellectual stuff that basically boils down to, "You're wrong, and my privilege lets me say so"), and then the most faily thing ever is said:

Other person:

I haven't got as far as the glowy sex, but aren't you arguing the (in my opinion impossible to objectively define) line between seduction and rape? Sounds like she got the horn and went irrational, as anyone can. I think if she's fine with it afterwards then you have to allow her the empowered choice to be so. Even if it ruins the story.

Me:

No, we don't, fraac, though you certainly can if you want to. But we don't have to because Buffy isn't a person. We can ask why the writers needed to include it at all and say we think they should have thought about it more. Which is what we're saying.

AND THEN.

Other person:

Surely if we're talking about her rights then for sake of argument she's a person? Otherwise you could do anything to her.

I think that, in the same way freedom of speech means defending to the death your worst enemy's right to verbally attack you, the ultimate expression of feminism is to defend a woman's right to enjoy being raped. In both cases it's about accepting (i.e. loving) our fellow humans for all they are, even where their existence is at odds with our deepest fears. So it's about courage and self-awareness.

[eta]

AND THERE'S MORE!

What if the character of Buffy spoke to the writer, as (previously) well-formed characters often do, and said she enjoyed the coercive universe aspect of sex? Either she's a person or she isn't, can't have it both ways.

[eta 2]

FOR FURTHER PROOF THAT THE UNIVERSE IS FAILING AND FAILING HARD TODAY, PLEASE TO BE LOOKING AT THIS POST.

But perhaps not if you value your sanity and your faith in humanity.

Please read that last link I linked to (once again, here) and report the hell out of this guy. I know the superpowers of my awesome feminist flist can shut this guy down.

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Just needed to get that out of my system.

Carry on.

I had sworn I wasn't going to do the link-to-whedonesque thing anymore. I'm sure it annoys y'all that I constantly have to scurry back here to get reassurance. I really am going to try to do it less in the future.

But this one time, I have to get my rage out. I'm feeling sick to my stomach and shaky.

Someone on whedonesque just made the most ridiculously sexist, homophobic, patronizing, self-congratulatory comment about shipping ever. And I am ANGRY.

Quote:

Saying that everything has to come down to some ship is kind of insulting. I know you probably weren't meaning to be. But.

I'm not a shipper. You can tell by how I'm a heterosexual adult man. I just like a good story.

Shipping itself is, in my humble opinion, not just stupid but destructive to the fandom. The story is what is what it is (and I'm including the TV show in this), but I can't comment on what actually has happened because it'll offend people who think things should be another way.

Let's say I decide that Riley should have been Buffy's true love, and regardless of what happens in the show, I get angry when she hooks up with anyone else. Doesn't matter that the events clearly show that that's not happening. Im'ma get pissed anyway. See how stupid that would be?

[eta] EMPHASIS HIS.

I...just...WTF?????

I called him on it. How much you wanna bet that he'll pull the whole "oversensitive" card?

It's okay. I will link the hell out of Derailing for Dummies. Never fear.

Dear Joss Whedon, Scott Allie, et. al.,

If you break Emmie's heart, I will never, ever, ever, ever, ever forgive you. Not in a million years. :P

No love,

Me

P.S. Jane? Please come back! We need you! If anyone can open these guys' eyes to their own privilege, it's you! These guys need a HBIC, and I nominate you.

- I'm embroiled in a rather vicious facebook conversation right now with a friend of mine. I mentioned that I was boycotting the Avatar: the Last Airbender movie because of race!fail, and he said he thought "the whole race thing" was blown out of proportion and went on to say a bunch of really privileged things that made me headdesk forever. I then sent him a looooong, ranty, link-filled message ripping apart each one of his points and generally being furious.

I shouldn't be surprised, though. This guy is such a Nice Guy (TM); he's actually the one I invented the phrase Bitter Beta Male Syndrome about. Most of the time when I'm having a conversation with him, I just want to yell, "CHECK YOUR PRIVILEGE, JACKASS!" Unfortunately, he's the only person in RL who's into all the shows I'm into, so we still talk. I might have to friend break-up with him, but I'm hoping not.

Oh, people. Why do you fail so hard?

- Apropos of nothing, I'm going to tell y'all the top ten reasons I think Buffy/Angel would never work! Aren't you excited? I know you are!

( Cut for me nattering on. Possible spoilers for S8 )

And now I'm going to be quiet.

People, please tell me to stop reading random people's reactions to the new S8 comic. I've loved what some of y'all on my flist (and, by extension, some of the people on your flists) have had to say, but there are people justifying evil all over the internet, and I cannot handle it. It just makes me so furious, and I want to engage all of them, and that will lead to my life being sucked away, and I could be doing way more constructive things like writing angsty Spuffy babyfic for seasonal_spuffy and beta-ing for my favorite people.

Tell. Me. To. Stop.

In other, happier news: BUFFY SUMMERS. DONNA NOBLE. TAMI TAYLOR. AERYN SUN. JOAN HOLLOWAY. VERONICA MARS. PARKER. AND OTHER AWESOME WOMEN. DOMINATING FANDOM STEEL CAGE MATCH.

PLUS: MY ICON. YES.

Also, I'm watching Wizards of Waverly Place (yes, I'm lame, but I have a massive girlcrush on Selena Gomez), and OMG SELENA GOMEZ AND DAVID HENRIE. IT SHOULD BE ILLEGAL FOR ACTORS PLAYING SIBLINGS TO HAVE SO MUCH CHEMISTRY. STOP IT NOOOOOOW. YOU'RE MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE.