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I mentioned on a certain site that I do not like Xander Harris, mostly because of his fail re: women. I got this in response:

What specifically are you referring to? Like he was definitely a creep sometimes, but it always seemed like the sort of cultural sexism one has to work through and not anything particularly sexist about him.

I do not have the energy or interest to answer this question myself. Anybody got any links to a nice meta/outline of Xander? My go-to post has been f-locked and I can't access it anymore.