Oh, God

[lirazel]

I had sworn I wasn't going to do the link-to-whedonesque thing anymore. I'm sure it annoys y'all that I constantly have to scurry back here to get reassurance. I really am going to try to do it less in the future.

But this one time, I have to get my rage out. I'm feeling sick to my stomach and shaky.

Someone on whedonesque just made the most ridiculously sexist, homophobic, patronizing, self-congratulatory comment about shipping ever. And I am ANGRY.

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Saying that everything has to come down to some ship is kind of insulting. I know you probably weren't meaning to be. But.

I'm not a shipper. You can tell by how I'm a heterosexual adult man. I just like a good story.

Shipping itself is, in my humble opinion, not just stupid but destructive to the fandom. The story is what is what it is (and I'm including the TV show in this), but I can't comment on what actually has happened because it'll offend people who think things should be another way.

Let's say I decide that Riley should have been Buffy's true love, and regardless of what happens in the show, I get angry when she hooks up with anyone else. Doesn't matter that the events clearly show that that's not happening. Im'ma get pissed anyway. See how stupid that would be?

[eta] EMPHASIS HIS.

I...just...WTF?????

I called him on it. How much you wanna bet that he'll pull the whole "oversensitive" card?

It's okay. I will link the hell out of Derailing for Dummies. Never fear.

Comments

[penny-lane-42.livejournal.com]

I'm frantically reading through to catch up, but I just got to the part where he was offended that you said he had privilige as a man.

Send him here. Make it clear that by the definition of privilege, all men have male privilege.

I'll get back to you on other things!

[angearia.livejournal.com]

I just replied with this:


Well, it seems like we'll be speaking in separate rooms or something where I can still read his posts and his viewpoint and he won't acknowledge mine. :P

But hey! I'll still talk to you, King. I was just having a discussion about some comments on Whedonesque and how we're all agreeing with you for denouncing that "heterosexual adult male" =/= shipper argument. Lots of praise for that enlightened viewpoint. *thumbs up*

Oh, and this is privilege. It's something the individual has no control over. It exists because of societal views and of how society treats the individual. If the individual is male, then he's privileged. He's got the power and society acknowledges this by giving him his due. The individual doesn't live in a vacuum. If they live in society, they possess a degree of privilege. And in most of the world, that privilege is predominantly male privilege.

I'll add, I don't like being treated like a second-class citizen every day of my life.

[gabrielleabelle.livejournal.com]

Very eloquently stated, as always.

You have powerful words, and you're not afraid to use them. Guys (and some women) will try to shut you down because it's easier to ignore you than try to understand. That's their loss. Only thing you can do is keep talking wherever you can. They can cover their ears, but they can't silence your voice.

*fist-bump of solidarity and...um...sisterhood or somesuch nonsense*