Hey, I'm totally fine with anybody liking him, but I don't and can't because his particular flaws are the kind that most infuriate me. So there's that.

It would diminish my feeling of safety in this fandom.

That certainly isn't anyone's intention, especially not mine. I've just seen so much hate directed at my personal faves (Buffy and Spike, obvs) that I take it for granted that any character can and will be bashed in fandom and I just need to steer myself away from it (not that I'm always great at doing that, but I try). Because characters prompt visceral reactions in all of us, and fandom is about nothing if not voicing your intensely-held opinions.

I wish I didn't hate him. I don't want to hate any character, and it makes rewatching laborious. But I can't help it. Hate wells up in my soul.