Especially the part about owning your own weirdness.
One of the comments below said something about how for every person who is comfortable in social situations, there are three or four who aren't. As someone who looks the part I can say: even those people you THINK are awesomely good at owning their weirdness, struggle. I do great in social situations (most of the time) - I'm considered quite adorable and interesting. But - leading up, during, all of it - I'm an uncomfortable, jittery wreck. I constantly feel like I'm reaching for a connection that no one wants to have with me, and that will lead to some serious anxiety/depression episodes on my part. What I'm trying to say is: sometimes the person you think can't possibly understand what you're feeling is actually in the same place, just better able to hide it in the moment. Sometimes a simple: "I hate things like this, I always feel so awkward" can sometimes be all that other person needs to say, "Me too."
I KNOW that a great deal of my anxiety stems from this overwhelming fear of judgment.
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One of the comments below said something about how for every person who is comfortable in social situations, there are three or four who aren't. As someone who looks the part I can say: even those people you THINK are awesomely good at owning their weirdness, struggle. I do great in social situations (most of the time) - I'm considered quite adorable and interesting. But - leading up, during, all of it - I'm an uncomfortable, jittery wreck. I constantly feel like I'm reaching for a connection that no one wants to have with me, and that will lead to some serious anxiety/depression episodes on my part. What I'm trying to say is: sometimes the person you think can't possibly understand what you're feeling is actually in the same place, just better able to hide it in the moment. Sometimes a simple: "I hate things like this, I always feel so awkward" can sometimes be all that other person needs to say, "Me too."
I KNOW that a great deal of my anxiety stems from this overwhelming fear of judgment.
Oh, you lovely, incredible YOU
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