A) how she changes and becomes less and less "feminine" and more and more "masculine" and can then embrace Spike's "femininity,"

Yes! And I think a big part of it was this - again, understandable - feeling that she needed to ~compensate for her power by bending herself into that narrow self-presentation? And watching her learn that she didn't have to do that for a lot of reasons is such a subtle but lovely part of her journey.

ALSO HAPPY BIRTHDAY I lost track of my notifications somehow but THIS IS HOW I FEEL ABOUT YOUR EXISTENCE: