I totally, totally get what you're saying, and I agree with you by and large. The two issues for me were that A) there was no trigger warning and B) she refuses to see it as rape at all. If you're going with a fantasy, no, you don't need to do all the negotiations like you need to do in real life. But since she seems to have no concept of what consent even is, that's why I went into the negotiation stuff, if that makes sense. Like, write your rape fantasies, but first you have to know that they're rape? Like...know the rules before you break them type thing?

I think you and I agree a whole lot here. :D

But I'm guessing that you're smacking up against some language/culture differences.

Possibly. I don't think she was Korean--she could be American, she could be from anywhere, so I have no idea in this case. There definitely are a lot of language/culture differences in this fandom that are hard to navigate.

i don't think you can change the whole fandom, but hopefully these kids will grow up and get exposed to new ideas and learn to think differently about things, like a lot of us do. And maybe some feminist meta wouldn't hurt. :P

Thank you thank you for all your thoughts! I think you're right about everything.