yeah, there are some major shitshows to be had, and gender politics and sexual prejudices play a big, big part in that.
True. And it's really a struggle for me to figure out where the lines are between the stuff that's cultural and the stuff that isn't okay across that board. Like, in this case, this was clearly wrong, but there are other things where the lines are much murkier.
i'm glad your admin was nice and apologetic and cooperative, but i also felt really sad reading about her trying to justify the fantasy as not rape
Yeah, that's how I felt. She seems like such a sweet girl! But it broke my heart that she clearly has no idea what consent is. And I feel like knowing what consent is and how to establish it and things like that are absolutely necessary if you're going to write a scenario like that.
and when it comes to rape, people backpedal fast. and it's perfectly understandable. and fucking rape culture. it's so insidious, and time will teach these girls a lot and i hope to God that it doesn't come from a bad situation.
YES YES. It's so deeply embedded in people's minds! And you want them to break free from it, but you don't want it to come from learning lessons first hand!
i also feel the need to squish your face for how very staunchly you do not blame them, because a lot of people are righteous assholes when it comes to ~social justice and it is actually completely counterproductive schismatic dickishness and completely against the point.
Awww, thanks! You're right: I've seen some social justice warriors go way, way too far (especially on tumblr OMG I hate it), but I think if you keep in mind that you had to be educated to at some point and that these ideas are holding people captive, it's easier to be generous with them, you know?
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True. And it's really a struggle for me to figure out where the lines are between the stuff that's cultural and the stuff that isn't okay across that board. Like, in this case, this was clearly wrong, but there are other things where the lines are much murkier.
i'm glad your admin was nice and apologetic and cooperative, but i also felt really sad reading about her trying to justify the fantasy as not rape
Yeah, that's how I felt. She seems like such a sweet girl! But it broke my heart that she clearly has no idea what consent is. And I feel like knowing what consent is and how to establish it and things like that are absolutely necessary if you're going to write a scenario like that.
and when it comes to rape, people backpedal fast. and it's perfectly understandable. and fucking rape culture. it's so insidious, and time will teach these girls a lot and i hope to God that it doesn't come from a bad situation.
YES YES. It's so deeply embedded in people's minds! And you want them to break free from it, but you don't want it to come from learning lessons first hand!
i also feel the need to squish your face for how very staunchly you do not blame them, because a lot of people are righteous assholes when it comes to ~social justice and it is actually completely counterproductive schismatic dickishness and completely against the point.
Awww, thanks! You're right: I've seen some social justice warriors go way, way too far (especially on tumblr OMG I hate it), but I think if you keep in mind that you had to be educated to at some point and that these ideas are holding people captive, it's easier to be generous with them, you know?
Thanks so much for your awesome comment.