I am ok with people fantasizing with it, because we all have fantasies and anyway it's one thing to fantasize about it or even make some sort of scenario with your partner who you trust and you've agreed to certains things or not, than
Absolutely. And I'm sure role-playing of that nature can be fun if all the rules are established beforehand and if both partners are into it.
. Hell, even that episode of Buffy the vampire slayer where Spike almost forces Buffy makes me incredibly uncomfortable and I've found out that I spend half of that scene looking anywhere but at the screen. And Spike is a fictional character AND I understand where that part of the plot comes from (meaning I understand why the writers did what they did there).
Yeah, me, too. I skip that scene. With as many times as I've rewatched that season, I think I've seen that scene twice--the first time as I was watching through the whole series, and the second time when I went back to watch it intentionally so I could form an opinion on it.
So imagine when it's Myungsoo (a real person that I sort of lovelovelove in that way you can only love people you don't really know at all but kind of do know in a sense) and it's in an scenario where there's not a reason for it to happen at all. I'm not against people writing it (or maybe I am? I don't know, I think I still have to figure out A LOT OF THINGS about RPF, honestly), but I am always going to ask for a trigger warning because it would've shocked me way too much. (Though I should also probably add that those 'scenarios' aren't my cup of tea, either; for some reason they don't make me comfortable. It's one thing for me to fantasize about Myungsoo in my head, which I do, but a whole different story to have some other person writing it and me reading. It's makes me feel... weird, idek).
We're on the exact same page with all of this.
It also helps that I know the author and I know her beliefs and principles and that was merely a piece of fiction and she knows where she stands and knew how to deal with it. This case you introduce here is the complete opposite of that and makes me feel really disgusted.
Yes! There are ways to use rape in a fictional scenario that can be okay. But only when the writer is in the right headspace, you know? LIKE WHEN THE WRITER KNOWS IT'S RAPE. That's the worst thing about this whole situation to me--this girl still doesn't realize what she was writing about was rape!
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Absolutely. And I'm sure role-playing of that nature can be fun if all the rules are established beforehand and if both partners are into it.
. Hell, even that episode of Buffy the vampire slayer where Spike almost forces Buffy makes me incredibly uncomfortable and I've found out that I spend half of that scene looking anywhere but at the screen. And Spike is a fictional character AND I understand where that part of the plot comes from (meaning I understand why the writers did what they did there).
Yeah, me, too. I skip that scene. With as many times as I've rewatched that season, I think I've seen that scene twice--the first time as I was watching through the whole series, and the second time when I went back to watch it intentionally so I could form an opinion on it.
So imagine when it's Myungsoo (a real person that I sort of lovelovelove in that way you can only love people you don't really know at all but kind of do know in a sense) and it's in an scenario where there's not a reason for it to happen at all. I'm not against people writing it (or maybe I am? I don't know, I think I still have to figure out A LOT OF THINGS about RPF, honestly), but I am always going to ask for a trigger warning because it would've shocked me way too much. (Though I should also probably add that those 'scenarios' aren't my cup of tea, either; for some reason they don't make me comfortable. It's one thing for me to fantasize about Myungsoo in my head, which I do, but a whole different story to have some other person writing it and me reading. It's makes me feel... weird, idek).
We're on the exact same page with all of this.
It also helps that I know the author and I know her beliefs and principles and that was merely a piece of fiction and she knows where she stands and knew how to deal with it. This case you introduce here is the complete opposite of that and makes me feel really disgusted.
Yes! There are ways to use rape in a fictional scenario that can be okay. But only when the writer is in the right headspace, you know? LIKE WHEN THE WRITER KNOWS IT'S RAPE. That's the worst thing about this whole situation to me--this girl still doesn't realize what she was writing about was rape!