I don't even know what to do or say right now. This is really hard.
I personally never read the scenarios on that tumblr because the personal pronouns of "I" and "me" kind of squick me. I think they are cute, but I don't read them. And I typically love the admins - because they seem to be so squish-able.
But this breaks my heart. For Myungsoo and for the dialogue that happened. (Bravo to you and to J for messaging the admins and I AM SO SORRY that people are saying that it was hate mail - UGH I JUST CAN'T EVEN!)
and oh it hurts my heart and it scares me and I just want to hug them all and make them hot chocolate and sit them down and explain consent and ownership of their bodies to them in ways they will understand but I can't do that it I hate that I can't. I hate it. oh honny - I feel the exact same way.
Kpop fandom has given me so much unbelievable joy--maybe (maybe) more than any other fandom I've ever been in. But it's been accompanied by all these reality checks about how awful people can be and how vulnerable young girls are and how absolutely indoctrinated they are by rape culture. Maybe it was just time - maybe you needed to feel safe and comfortable and loved and proud - and now it's time to get back in the world. You have your blanket now - you have your safe space and now it's time to get back into the nitty-gritty.
Time to wade back into the sludge.
Which sucks - but I think, even though we have found a pocket of love and happiness - the world keeps going, and it's actually getting worse out there. And maybe now you are strong enough to help?
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I don't even know what to do or say right now. This is really hard.
I personally never read the scenarios on that tumblr because the personal pronouns of "I" and "me" kind of squick me. I think they are cute, but I don't read them. And I typically love the admins - because they seem to be so squish-able.
But this breaks my heart. For Myungsoo and for the dialogue that happened. (Bravo to you and to J for messaging the admins and I AM SO SORRY that people are saying that it was hate mail - UGH I JUST CAN'T EVEN!)
and oh it hurts my heart and it scares me and I just want to hug them all and make them hot chocolate and sit them down and explain consent and ownership of their bodies to them in ways they will understand but I can't do that it I hate that I can't. I hate it.
oh honny - I feel the exact same way.
Kpop fandom has given me so much unbelievable joy--maybe (maybe) more than any other fandom I've ever been in. But it's been accompanied by all these reality checks about how awful people can be and how vulnerable young girls are and how absolutely indoctrinated they are by rape culture.
Maybe it was just time - maybe you needed to feel safe and comfortable and loved and proud - and now it's time to get back in the world. You have your blanket now - you have your safe space and now it's time to get back into the nitty-gritty.
Time to wade back into the sludge.
Which sucks - but I think, even though we have found a pocket of love and happiness - the world keeps going, and it's actually getting worse out there. And maybe now you are strong enough to help?