"I knew I loved you before I met you" is a Savage Garden lyric. NO, SERIOUSLY. (The song also contains the line "I think I dreamed you into life," which is oddly appropriate. In a fucked-up way which the show never actually explicitly acknowledged until after she was dead. I know some people think "leave them on" is a justification for Wes/Fred because HE WANTS TO BE WITH HER, but for me it's the opposite. He doesn't want her,, he wants a facsimile of her. Lilah in pigtails and glasses is NOT FRED, but apparently it's enough for him. Eurgh.

eleusis_walks speculated- and I'm inclined to agree- that she gravitates towards Wes in season five because her memories of posessed!Wes attacking her have been wiped, so she doesn't instinctively cringe away from him the way she did before. Which would have been okay IF THEY HAD ACKNOWLEDGED THIS and not played it as "oh they're so sweet" rather than "oh this relationship was facilitated by a massive Nice Guy complex and mindrape."