Ah see, when I think of fanwank, it's specific. So like my reading of the text being fanwank means that I just fanwanked it.
I can see some of the writers being blind to how horribly sexist Xander is, but I think in moving him towards a place where he's secure, it diminishes the motive inside that perpetuates those sexist attitudes. So while the misogyny isn't directly dealt with, the reason Xander acts out is gone. Though the pervasive nature of the attitudes are probably deeply rooted still. Socialization--I hate some of the stuff that's just inside me and hasn't been properly examined yet.
When you say explicit, do you mean you wished that Xander's sexist attitudes and behaviors were explicitly dealt with? 'Cause yeah, that definitely never happened. I think the self-awareness he reaches in Grave is minimal in the sense that he realizes one thing he's good for and through that, finds a bedrock of security and calm inside him that he's been struggling to find all along (and this was helped a lot by his steady job in construction and success professionally, but he still had the setback in the group dynamic of his friends).
Okay, for real gonna crash. I actually never got to sleep last night so I'm going on fumes here. :D
Re: I don't have it in me to be a hater today (maybe ever, but definitely not today)
I can see some of the writers being blind to how horribly sexist Xander is, but I think in moving him towards a place where he's secure, it diminishes the motive inside that perpetuates those sexist attitudes. So while the misogyny isn't directly dealt with, the reason Xander acts out is gone. Though the pervasive nature of the attitudes are probably deeply rooted still. Socialization--I hate some of the stuff that's just inside me and hasn't been properly examined yet.
When you say explicit, do you mean you wished that Xander's sexist attitudes and behaviors were explicitly dealt with? 'Cause yeah, that definitely never happened. I think the self-awareness he reaches in Grave is minimal in the sense that he realizes one thing he's good for and through that, finds a bedrock of security and calm inside him that he's been struggling to find all along (and this was helped a lot by his steady job in construction and success professionally, but he still had the setback in the group dynamic of his friends).
Okay, for real gonna crash. I actually never got to sleep last night so I'm going on fumes here. :D