It's not that he's a jerk--Spike can be a jerk. A major, major asshole. And I never stop loving him. It's the way he wants to control all of the women around him. He's...a raging misogynist and the text doesn't recognize that. The text acts as though the only way to hate women is the way that Warren or Caleb does it instead of recognizing that Xander's way is just as damaging.

Glance through the list of awful moments in the post. Those are things I can't get over because he never acknowledges that any of them are problematic. I just can't figure out a way to think well of him when he consistently acts this way.

Ha! You could never ruin my mood! I like you and your thoughts too much!