Thank you for your insightful words and the work (and possibly hurt) you put into them. Love you.
A lot has been said already and i don't want to clobber up your space by repeating.
While a lot of fans (especially in this section of fandom) despise the relationship between Buffy and Riley i personally like the the relationship exactly because it is sexually healthy and - with the exception of the end and the sex episode* - not the big focus of season 4 and 5 (the sex, i mean. It is NOT all about Buffy's vagina - and that's good).
Mind you, i don't like Riley. Nazi soldier types are just not my favourite characters. ;-) But their relationship is a) not the focus of the show and b) they don't have evil!sex (apart from the instances you mention - so, Whedon obviously has issues, but the overall theme of their relationship is not OMGevilsexbadness!).
* I once read somewhere that the episode was a commentary by Whedon towards FOX - someone on the networks was of the opinion that BtVS had too much violence, so Whedon made a porn episode to ridicule them. I don't know if this is true or an urban myth - but seems definatly possible.
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A lot has been said already and i don't want to clobber up your space by repeating.
While a lot of fans (especially in this section of fandom) despise the relationship between Buffy and Riley i personally like the the relationship exactly because it is sexually healthy and - with the exception of the end and the sex episode* - not the big focus of season 4 and 5 (the sex, i mean. It is NOT all about Buffy's vagina - and that's good).
Mind you, i don't like Riley. Nazi soldier types are just not my favourite characters. ;-) But their relationship is a) not the focus of the show and b) they don't have evil!sex (apart from the instances you mention - so, Whedon obviously has issues, but the overall theme of their relationship is not OMGevilsexbadness!).
* I once read somewhere that the episode was a commentary by Whedon towards FOX - someone on the networks was of the opinion that BtVS had too much violence, so Whedon made a porn episode to ridicule them. I don't know if this is true or an urban myth - but seems definatly possible.