Oh god yes. I found it very disturbing that Willow/Tara was being whitewashed and set up as the perfect relationship. No no no. I mean, yes, they're quite adorable and sweet at times (and often too sweet in the manner that makes me gag and eye-roll), but they also got very messed up. And Tara was far too often subordinate to Willow until Willow abused her too much and Tara had to get out. It reminds me of the trope of the abusive, controlling husband and the wife who finally grew enough backbone to remove herself from the unhealthy situation. The fact that she goes back because she misses the one who abused her is actually pretty sad when the abuser never really owned up to the issues nor change until after the 'wife' dies and the 'husband' learns a horrible lesson from trying to end the world after losing his obsession that he needed to control in order to be happy. Even the fact that Willow wants to keep Tara to herself in the beginning is a bit disturbing when looked at in this light.

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