The women are pov characters! Maybe not as often as the men, but we do see things from their povs and yet it still feels off!
Sorry, no idea. (Unless I read him...) Hope someone comes along who knows more than I.

There are male writers who write fantastic female characters (not enough, but it's becoming more common!) and white writers who can write really solid characters of color. It's definitely possible to do!
And lots of female writes (say, Agatha Christie) who have male main characters, and I don't think anyone's ever complained?