I just went back to edit and say that I don't think the show did a good job of showing how problematic Xander's behavior was, because I realize I didn't say that. I guess I just thought everyone knew that I think that? Anyway, it's there now.
What this fails to take into account is that in real life, women rarely have to deal with people like Caleb. Most of the time, it's the smaller actions of well-meaning people like Xander that hurt most. But because in Jossverse misogyny is definied by what "those other guys" do, the good guys never get called out for the things they do.
OH YES YES YES. I definitely agree with this statement. And I would looooove to read your "Billy" essay, because I suspect I would agree with all of it.
no subject
What this fails to take into account is that in real life, women rarely have to deal with people like Caleb. Most of the time, it's the smaller actions of well-meaning people like Xander that hurt most. But because in Jossverse misogyny is definied by what "those other guys" do, the good guys never get called out for the things they do.
OH YES YES YES. I definitely agree with this statement. And I would looooove to read your "Billy" essay, because I suspect I would agree with all of it.