and yet it's completely socially unacceptable for me to not wear them, but it's also completely socially unacceptable for my brastraps to be showing
wow, this is... curious to me because it's not my experience at all. My brastraps show ALL the time. Hell, some of the clothes I wear reveal a big part of my bra on the sides (when I'm wearing shirts like the gray one but the version where it shows a little less so you can wear it without anything underneath and it'll show just the side of the bra + some skin). It's like, super normal and super accepted here? You make sure that you're wearing a bra with nice straps most of the time (instead of, say, skin-colored ones, but those are mostly used by older women nowadays), but that's okay with me because I actually LOVE bras and LOVE LINGERIE and I could spend my salary on them, so most of my bras are either super cute or pretty sexy (I'm Hoya here -- all for the sexy). Nobody would tell you anything about your bra showing, unless idk you're wearing one of those dresses that have no straps itselves (but for me that is a case of: the whole point of the dress is showing all of your shoulders and cleavage, why would you put something there? imo, as I said). The fact that it's completely socially unacceptable that your brastraps show sounds super weird to me! Comes to show how different things are in different places, huh.
Re: not wearing bra, I think it's less common here. Brastraps showing? Every woman walking down the street (exaggeration but you get my point). Not wearing bra? Not so common, but idt it's looked down upon/frown upon? I've seen quite an amount of women not wearing bra. And I've seen some get blacklash for it, usually women that have BIG breasts and wear no bra. Which is totally their right by the way. But when a girl with little breasts/well put breasts does it there's usually a feeling of "whatever, her choice" or "oh lucky girl I wear I'd had those instead of these", lol. So yeah, it's not totally looked down amongst young people, although I'm pretty sure it's not something you'd do to go to your job, tbh. THAT may be a problem and in general, as I said, it's quite less common.
This is, of course, all based on my own experience, so others' might be different? But yeah, brastraps are generally okay here unless you're wearing the grandma kind of bra or you're from the Royal family lmfao, but in all honesty then it becomes just about finding a way of attacking/criticizing famous people and I AM RAMBLING NOW.
Anyways, it sucks for you :( I like bras. I am super uncomfortable if I don't wear them and wearing them makes me feel confident too (I do not like my breasts, tbh? They're like FALLING and I AM TWENTY TWO COME BACK UP HERE NOW // tmi). I love lingerie too sooooo I don't think I'd ever stop wearing them, lol, but it really sucks that people who find it uncomfortable have to wear them just because. Same with shaving and everything else. If you don't want, you shouldn't have to! ARG!
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wow, this is... curious to me because it's not my experience at all. My brastraps show ALL the time. Hell, some of the clothes I wear reveal a big part of my bra on the sides (when I'm wearing shirts like the gray one but the version where it shows a little less so you can wear it without anything underneath and it'll show just the side of the bra + some skin). It's like, super normal and super accepted here? You make sure that you're wearing a bra with nice straps most of the time (instead of, say, skin-colored ones, but those are mostly used by older women nowadays), but that's okay with me because I actually LOVE bras and LOVE LINGERIE and I could spend my salary on them, so most of my bras are either super cute or pretty sexy (I'm Hoya here -- all for the sexy). Nobody would tell you anything about your bra showing, unless idk you're wearing one of those dresses that have no straps itselves (but for me that is a case of: the whole point of the dress is showing all of your shoulders and cleavage, why would you put something there? imo, as I said). The fact that it's completely socially unacceptable that your brastraps show sounds super weird to me! Comes to show how different things are in different places, huh.
Re: not wearing bra, I think it's less common here. Brastraps showing? Every woman walking down the street (exaggeration but you get my point). Not wearing bra? Not so common, but idt it's looked down upon/frown upon? I've seen quite an amount of women not wearing bra. And I've seen some get blacklash for it, usually women that have BIG breasts and wear no bra. Which is totally their right by the way. But when a girl with little breasts/well put breasts does it there's usually a feeling of "whatever, her choice" or "oh lucky girl I wear I'd had those instead of these", lol. So yeah, it's not totally looked down amongst young people, although I'm pretty sure it's not something you'd do to go to your job, tbh. THAT may be a problem and in general, as I said, it's quite less common.
This is, of course, all based on my own experience, so others' might be different? But yeah, brastraps are generally okay here unless you're wearing the grandma kind of bra or you're from the Royal family lmfao, but in all honesty then it becomes just about finding a way of attacking/criticizing famous people and I AM RAMBLING NOW.
Anyways, it sucks for you :( I like bras. I am super uncomfortable if I don't wear them and wearing them makes me feel confident too (I do not like my breasts, tbh? They're like FALLING and I AM TWENTY TWO COME BACK UP HERE NOW // tmi). I love lingerie too sooooo I don't think I'd ever stop wearing them, lol, but it really sucks that people who find it uncomfortable have to wear them just because. Same with shaving and everything else. If you don't want, you shouldn't have to! ARG!