Your K-pop playlist was so much fun to pore through last week - and I was quasi-impressed with myself that I had actually seen quite a few of them (non-infinite ones! :D). Loving everything miss A which is a problem. No more obsessions, please. There is not enough time in the day. ;)
Also, this is not a rec, but I’ve been writing het!porn (gender!swap) lately for the first time and I find that I actually find it more difficult to write than slash!porn. I think this is because I feel more pressure to get female sexual reactions right? Because I'm a woman. But the thing is: I have zero sexual experience (not even kissing), so writing about a woman having sex is just as foreign to me in one sense as writing about a guy having sex. And yet I feel like if I get the guy wrong, people will cut me more slack than if I write the lady wrong. Does that make sense at all? All I know is, I feel less confident writing het!porn than (dude)slash!porn. Perhaps this means I would feel twice the pressure if I were writing femslash!porn? Who konws?
I was just nodding my head along with all of this because it's all so hard to write smut well and it does feel like so much pressure. Femslash has proved to be REALLY challenging for me because I have no idea what it's like to have sex with a girl - but I keep reminding myself that the way different things feel are always going to be the same to a certain extent - the physical body is going to have similar physical reactions to things, right? So I can extrapolate on the experiences I do have, and remember that neither Caroline nor Elena are going to be the same as me - their experiences are theirs, and my challenge is to make them uniquely theirs. And they are their own people emotionally too. The emotional piece is the most important, so if I know my characters, then I know what's going to matter to them once their clothes are off, right? Gosh I hope so, lol, or I'm in trouble. The same holds true for Sungyeol.
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Thank you so much for reccing me <3.
Your K-pop playlist was so much fun to pore through last week - and I was quasi-impressed with myself that I had actually seen quite a few of them (non-infinite ones! :D). Loving everything miss A which is a problem. No more obsessions, please. There is not enough time in the day. ;)
Also, this is not a rec, but I’ve been writing het!porn (gender!swap) lately for the first time and I find that I actually find it more difficult to write than slash!porn. I think this is because I feel more pressure to get female sexual reactions right? Because I'm a woman. But the thing is: I have zero sexual experience (not even kissing), so writing about a woman having sex is just as foreign to me in one sense as writing about a guy having sex. And yet I feel like if I get the guy wrong, people will cut me more slack than if I write the lady wrong. Does that make sense at all? All I know is, I feel less confident writing het!porn than (dude)slash!porn. Perhaps this means I would feel twice the pressure if I were writing femslash!porn? Who konws?
I was just nodding my head along with all of this because it's all so hard to write smut well and it does feel like so much pressure. Femslash has proved to be REALLY challenging for me because I have no idea what it's like to have sex with a girl - but I keep reminding myself that the way different things feel are always going to be the same to a certain extent - the physical body is going to have similar physical reactions to things, right? So I can extrapolate on the experiences I do have, and remember that neither Caroline nor Elena are going to be the same as me - their experiences are theirs, and my challenge is to make them uniquely theirs. And they are their own people emotionally too. The emotional piece is the most important, so if I know my characters, then I know what's going to matter to them once their clothes are off, right? Gosh I hope so, lol, or I'm in trouble. The same holds true for Sungyeol.