See this is where the show has already tackled a lot of it - Twelve was going to mindwipe Clara to keep her safe and she gets to deliver the speech that Donna was unable to give:

CLARA: What were you doing to me?
DOCTOR: I'm trying to keep you safe.
CLARA: Why? Nobody's ever safe. I've never asked you for that, ever. These have been the best years of my life, and they are mine. Tomorrow is promised to no one, Doctor, but I insist upon my past. I am entitled to that. It's mine.

Thank you for reminding me of that scene! It is so, so, so good.

lirazel: I think you should watch the episode. Donna does get her memories back, and it's a good episode.

It doesn't do everything I wanted: I wanted a definitive acknowledgement that what the Doctor did was wrong, and that it was worse than just mindwiping Donna without her consent and worse than just taking away her past. Donna's memories were still in her unconscious mind, but her family had been warned that if she ever remembered consciously she would die, which meant that they were forced to gaslight her - and that's the worst thing of all.

But it's a good episode in so many ways, and Donna does get her memories back, and I think you'd like it.