WOW!Love this post. The ship wars....I'm glad I've managed to skirt around those. I generally am more into side pairings so I guess, I end up in the circle of very like-minded fans usually.
The abandoned fics are heartbreaking because some of them were just so good but it's completely understandable.

The whole thing of talking about fandom outside in REAL LIFE?! Like,no thank you, I'm still a millenial who believes that the rest of the people around me will just look at me weirdly because 'why would you read stories about story-book people?' Also, it's a part of me just for me and I'd rather not associate my RL friends and people with it,lol.