we’ve swung a bit too far in the opposite direction to try to correct it — which in turn kind of takes some of the crackle and spark out of the romance if there’s never ANY misunderstanding or unwise or heated feelings. I think it also removes the stories of authentic human behavior a bit sometimes. Like, you can try to make your characters totally un-problematic, but what actual human being alive shares that quality, and therefore how can they possibly feel authentic?


RIGHT? And as a super progressive bleeding-heart, if even I am like, "This is too far!" then it must really be too far!!!

sometimes we just don’t have that Spark with stuff even when technically it checks all our boxes! Idk if it is possible for humans and books to have chemistry, but I think it’s kinda like that

This is both true and wise!